First I must clarify I do not think all the people selling a “system” or offering wealth in exchange for a small training fee are out there coning people. Some people that are making great products and services and truly changing lives exist, but this strategy won’t work against the “good ones” anyhow. It will only mop the floor with the scum of the new age. Also, on purpose, I wrote this against the grain of what we are told and even what we have learned gets more people to read… Call it an experiment.
For years I have been watching these guys… gurus and alike making these outrageous claims and standing in front of their Ferraris and surrounded by beautiful things. You know the ones you have seen them in many different settings they are always around claiming they can teach or train you to do the same.
Sometimes I think a few of these people are sincere in their efforts and intentions. I think a few of them could even help the budding entrepreneur or struggling business owner but what I never understood was why and how they justified charging someone that is struggling $5,000, $10,000, even upwards of $100,000 and higher.
Remember the person they are getting to pay them is often in a hard position. These people are using strong emotions and in a way praying on the weak.
“I can help you”
“Your business won’t grow unless you invest in it”
“Youwon’t grow unless you invest in yourself”
These gurus all have the same battle cry. They are so cookie cutter. What’s crazy is it seems right for the time. In our social media-addicted world, you can see business owners checking their Facebook more often than their workers. And everyone knows the couple, they have seen them (or been them), checking Facebook and texting on a date night (I know I’ve done it).
What a better time could there be for someone promising quick riches, and an easy path to wealth?
Truly the last 50-100 years have been prime time for these scum to grow. Never a better time for them to thrive and become powerful and wealthy. It begs the question, could this be the thing to do?
I say in fact there has never been a better time than now for what is about to come. You may think it is social media that has ruined your life and they are easy to blame. They higher dopamine experts to manipulate our brains into spending too much time, wasting our lives, to look at a screen or focus on the unimportant minutiae. But this trend started so much further back than that… years ago Radio and Television were designed much in the same way. And a population changed…
I used to have this theory that you could track musical and fashion trends to popular drugs of the time period and others have gone on to show this same thing [1, 2, 3]. I’ve explained my theory to several people in the past but the first time I looked it up on Google I was admittedly shocked at the amount of material that had previously been written on the topic.
[But the link here is not as simple as drugs… the link is dopamine.] All of us crave it whether we know it or not. We look for our little shots of dopamine anywhere we can get them. The person checking their feed to see who liked their latest post or worried about how many retweets they got is after the same rush the addict under the bridge gets…
Sure we can claim moral superiority based on dosage or the lack of crimes committed. But what are you sacrificing for that little rush?
I say the same thing is going on in business. People, business owners, are buying in left and right to the marketing hype. They are looking for that same dopamine rush and they are doing it such mass they are changing the market. Tons of young guns looking to make a quick buck running out and rushing in… most of them not thinking about what the true effects of what they are doing.
I would say none of them have a true strategy for the long term. Most of them are using tactics shared in passing and designed to make a quick buck.
And this is where we can use the greatest money-making strategy to steal customers right away from these bottom feeders. It’s super simple, and something you can do ethically. After all part of the thing that will separate you from these people is how committed you are to operating ethically and how devoted you are to providing true value to your customers over marketing hype.
So what on Earth could I mean?
Simple… take what is broken and fix it. Fix it so well that your customers and their customers could never see any need for an alternative. It’s beautiful really. Ethically stealing the idea of your competitor but through better execution, better design, and more attention to the customers’ needs you can build something that blows them out of the water.
If you do it right people won’t even see the competition as competition at all. In their eyes, you are on such a different level than what you have vs what they have are not even in the same ballpark. They aren’t the same game.
Now you have the greatest money-making secret in the world.
I’ve been thinking about how I put out a lot of content online, but most of it is far from personal. I don’t often talk about the struggles of life or the things that are bothering me.
Yet I’m the first to tell someone if they want to reach and help others. They should share about the personal struggles and hardships they face.
… Here we are and I haven’t really done that.
Today is different However
As I sit here I look down at my leg I notice the hole in my shin. Maybe I should have gotten stitches or went to the doctor or the hospital. But I thought it was cool.
Even though the scar was gained in training for football and not during an actual game I thought it was just cool. And there is something to say about that. It’s proof!
Proof I was there. Proof I had taken things to the max. It felt manly. However, what I will tell you about today felt anything but manly.
Stars and Scars
This attitude might make more sense if you knew a story from long ago. It might also help you understand why, in my mind, it’s manly to have a scar, but only those that you earn.
Some 15 or so years earlier when I was very young life 4 younger. I remember looking at my dad’s face and seeing something that seemed out-of-place. “What’s that I asked?” I asked.
“A star,” I thought he replied.
He corrected me, but my mind had been set. I decided scars were like stars and they were cool! Now fast forward several years to my first watching of Indiana Jones and The Last Crusade.
When young Indie is in the train facing the lion he cracks the whip and cuts just below his lip above his chin. They used that wound to tie the young Indie to the older Harrison Ford who has a scar there. I wouldn’t say it was me that had decided. More like a universal truth. Men had scars from doing manly things.
Something You Didn’t Know: My Dad is just like Indiana Jones!
No joke! He had a scar. He was at the University of Arkansas at this time. So I got to go to the University and see the little dead animals in jars and old musky looking books. And there was my dad in the middle of it all just like Indiana Jones.
Then he would take me hunting and fishing. One time I remember night fishing and catching some kind of mudfish or sucker fish. We fished all night long. Another time he got me out of school early in the day. I was shocked we could do that. We went down below the dam at Tenkiller and fished.
I remember going on water testing missions and he would mix things and then the water would turn different colors. One time he gave me one of the test vials and it was a purple color. I immediately used it to plug up an ant hole because that is the kind of thing little boys do.
Things Change and We Get Older
I have so many good memories with my dad. From a pretty young age, I knew, that when I grew up I wanted to be a dad. If I had a son and then my dad, his grandson, and son would get to hunting and fishing together.
It makes me think of all the cool things I would teach a son. The cool and interesting things, the manly things.
For most of my friends and family, things seem “normal” they all seem to get pregnant and have kids right away. However, when my wife and I got started on “trying” nothing happened. months went by with no change. Doctors visited, tests run, and yet nothing.
And I just trusted what we kept hearing from the doctors. Keep trying and wait. They would test Sherece and repeat the sentiment. Then we would wait…
Sometimes we would wait longer so we could afford the next visit or test, other times the waiting was just part of what we were told to do. Then we arrived at the point where it was time to test me.
I went in and they ran the test and when we got it back we were both shocked but at the same time relieved. The first test revealed only 5 sperm but they were dead and nothing else. So the doctor came in and delivered the news and checked that things looked “in place” and then suggested I take Clomiphene (better known as Clomid) and wait 3 months for things to take effect as the male sperm cycle is 72 days.
Multiple sources had told us, including doctors, “it is easier if it’s male infertility.” This seemed like the answer the fixes for men seemed easy and straightforward.
I’m thinking this whole time, “easy peasy, 72 days later things will be back to normal and we can move on from this.”
So that’s what we did another 3 months of waiting so we can go in and take a test. I will tell you I did get some benefit from the pills that are essentially estrogen hormone receptor blockers (what a mouth full). I’m still researching this, but the doctor explained it simply enough. I take the clomiphene my body thinks it seems more estrogen and that kicks “the boys” into gear to produce testosterone which also brings about sperm.
A Little History
I didn’t mention this yet but I have had low testosterone since they first tested my blood to treat my Hypothyroidism.
Every doctor has said, “you have low testosterone,” and I’ll ask, “how low?” They always say back, “well its relative you are just under the bottom of the scale.” I waited several months until the treatment for the thyroid had started then tried some topical cream. I was told to, “watch out for mood changes.” After a short amount of time doing the treatment, I decided the mood changes were a cost too high for the little benefit I might get.
We have also learned that these straight testosterone replacements shut down the testis in the same way mine already seems to be.
Trusting the doctors and seeing a few positive changes in other areas I felt ready for the 90-day test. I felt like I knew Sherece and I can be on our way to grow our family.
Confident and ready for good news Sherece and I went to the doctor’s office to hear the results. Not 5 million or more like I hoped for. Not 5 thousand. Not even the 5 dead ones like last time. Just zero… It felt pretty bad. Anti-manly if you will allow.
So here we are again waiting for another 90 days to pass so we can test again. They want us to come in and talk about taking HCG shots, but as it stands right now we need to wait a few weeks. The costs of testing blood and other things add up fast. It is pretty much not covered by insurance.
I can’t complain when I look at what other people we know have had to spend. But when you are waiting then you have to wait extra because you just don’t have the money it hurts that much more. It adds stress.
So now you have a little idea about some personal things going on with Sherece and I. You might understand how my dad’s influence makes me want to be a father. Why we don’t have kids yet.
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I’m honestly not sure what button I clicked or how it is that I shared this, but OK!
Bettina Arndt is from Australia and has a very traditional view of marriage and the roles people play in the marriage. I think anyone that wants to stick to a Biblical view of things will enjoy this video. The warnings about where we are headed as a society are very interesting and valid as well.
I have often thought about how things like the Bible guide our society, and what that means. One thing I come back to often is how do these things fit together if you’re an atheist? While I don’t claim to have the answers to that question it seems to me that the knowledge presented from the generations past must have some value. Be it our parents, or even older generations the people who have gone before us have learned something. They have gained some knowledge to pass down to us in one way or another.
These things also force me to consider how this generation and the next might look in 20-30 years. I see everyday more and more rejection of the knowledge from those that have gone before us, and this is not even mentioning the rejection of God both in obvious and subtle ways. I think I could expand on these topics ad infinitum because on one side you have the people who outright claim God is dead or a lie and these people are easy to spot. However, there is a more subtle and, to my mind, more scary trend especially among the young to “rebrand” things and “tweak” them a little. This has to be like the stuff Jim Jones must have been doing.
Anyhow, I am getting further and further away from my intent here… This video was interesting. I hope you enjoy.
In looking for an answer on a computer issue the difference between dd and ddrescue I came across an interesting concept that I have been thinking about. The application is practical for most things we do if you understand the why and apply it properly. As Journeyman Geek says ‘Most UNIX graybeard would say “Use the big bashy thing” – it’s the “right” way to do it.’ He may not be agreeing with what he attributes to the graybeard but I think it is genius!
Bashing away at things may seem like the wrong choice when you aren’t trying to break things but in most cases, we have to make a compromise between speed of getting the thing done and accuracy. Both of these are things that we strive for speed … accuracy. It’s the holy grail of productivity to achieve both in any project or endeavor be it work or personal.
In computing specifically you need accuracy or things break very easily, however, there is a little more to it than that. There are known problems with accuracy in computing such as bit flipping. I learned about it from Defcon years ago you can see the talk here: Bitsquatting. You can also read more here.
Basically, due to faulty equipment at some point along the way of you typing in amazon.com you could actually end up at aeazon.com (as an example). This is due to one of the zeros flipping to a one or vice versa.
And that might be a poor demonstration of what I am getting at here, but let me try to just break it down a more simple way. If the Big Bashy Thing succeeds in making things work it likely did it faster and with enough accuracy. So we should try that first then get more fine-grained especially since some operations like ddrescue can take days to complete where dd might only take half a day and output the same quality even if it is a little less accurate.
It seems like it wasn’t that long ago that I wrote you guys about how I was working so hard to get things cleaned and organized on my computers…
Here I am again. Not completed from last time…
Anyone who knows what I’m talking about here knows that if you don’t keep things organized as you go then it becomes a daunting task to do it later. Sometimes that is easier said than done. We get busy, things get in the way, or others were forgotten.
Part of getting it right is having the right system. And I have had my share of “wrong” systems. I am certainly still trying to figure it all out. You can read about some of that in my Paper vs Digital posts (at the time of writing I still have 2 more posts to come).
Today I am going to tell you about 2 new tools I have added to the mix that seems to be holding their own weight… My only evidence is that I am sitting here writing this blog post now instead of …
1st up on our list is Getting Things Done. This is more of a methodology than a tool but it is just as much a tool in how you use it. I found the book terribly boring and recommend not getting it – sorry to David Allen for that. However, there is this YouTube video which does a good job of breaking things down in about 8 min. And eventually, I will finish the book. To help with the system there is an app called GSDfaster. I’ve been using this for around a week now and really am enjoying it. I will make a blog post about it when I get through the book and understand the system fully.
2nd on our list we have pCloud! I got this AppSumo deal for 500 GB of space for a lifetime for 1 payment of $49. I loved it so much I upgraded to the 2TB plan for $200 more. You might ask how that helps but as someone that uses several devices, several computers, and in many locations. I have had to leap-frog my cloud storage solutions for years. OneDrive, Dropbox, Google, and iCloud are all full and due to device limitations not all of them are on all of my devices. But pCloud is different… It saves my data in the cloud and gives me a virtual hard drive effectively extending my hard drive to the size I need. I can also set a cache size allowing me to keep all the files offline if needed such as if I were traveling where there was no internet but still needed access to my files.
I hope you found that useful! I will let you know as things develop and I find more useful tools. Additionally, I have made a major change on my Ultimate Guide to Online Marketing essentially I have followed my own advice and made an adjustment to my target audience. This guide is going to be most helpful to anyone running some sort of service based business such as coaching, consulting, and alike. You can find more details on the actual post as it develops by clicking here.
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