Spencer, Stop taking yourself so Seriously

What happens when you bring mindfulness to the project?

Being mindful allows me to stop ignoring the problems that my inner-self is trying to warn me about. It allows me to fully immerse myself in a way that brings things together and moves them forward.

This is the same inner stillness that warns me of dangers I would rather ignore, as it is the one that alerts me to opportunities. It is not the “resistance”.

Is the project the same as you? The project is serious. There is a lot on the line. But what happens if you take yourself a lot less seriously? Many people find it makes it easier to take the problem seriously if they let themselves off the serious hook a bit.

The things I am working on I have often let them quietly take over. The stress and anxiety have caused me many a sleepless night, but when I have been able to “let go” things have always seemed to just work. A flow develops, I am able to trust, and then I am able to just get things done.

The thing about it, while I remember the struggle and the stress and how good it made me feel to succeed under those conditions, it has always been just as good to succeed when I am not seeing every disaster of the end of myself. When I take the problem serious but not myself, work is able to get done faster and better, and maybe more amazing, I have almost always “had fun” working this way.

Give an example of a moment in the past when you forgot Rule 6… and whether, in retrospect, those behaviors paid off. When someone asks why you’re not panicking, perhaps the answer might be, “would it help?”

Taking on an unprofitable project that I was determined to see through. For as long as I saw it as a failure, and stressed about it nearly nothing got done because I only saw one direction. When I stepped back recently and started to look for an alternative, and I mean wildly different from what I have previously thought of alternatives, things have started to flow again.

Who do you follow? Who follows you? What does it mean? – Leadership NB Prompt #5

Who do you follow? Who follows you? What does it mean? – Leadership NB Prompt #5

Who are you following? What does it mean for you to be enrolled in that journey? What commitments are you making and what compromises do you refuse to make?

Currently, Linus. For me to be enrolled in this journey means I make a little less money right now but I am working on some amazing things that are pushing the boundaries of the technology we are working with. It means that my boundaries have been pushed greatly and I have been forced to grow in a lot of ways I did not expect, it has been a major learning experience.

The commitments I am making are all about seeing this project through to the conclusion of making a profit and being self-sustaining. I see it as a major bridge and hurdle that I need to figure out. I have to find a way to replace myself with systems that will hold up against the tests of time, technology, and other people.

Now that you’ve considered the people you’re enrolled with, what would it mean for someone to be enrolled in following you? Are they getting the same satisfaction as you are? Are they making the same commitment? What are they seeking?

In relation to My Tribal Job, if I can get people on board with this project I know they will be able to get the same satisfaction of helping people and making a difference. I know that their help and commitment is what this project needs to go to the next level. From the previous exercise, I know we need to work on our story although, we are nearly there with the powerful message we currently have.

Think about the C people in your organization– and then figure out what about their role makes them act like C people? Are their round holes for these round people?

This question is one I have thought about a lot on other occasions and in other settings. I ask it a different way: “Can the person reach their full and true potential in the position they are in?”

It becomes a hard thing at times because if someone is working at their full potential they are often moved up to a “managerial” role (I know we are talking about leaders) and they might not be as effective in that position as the former. I know part of that is the assumption that if they are good at their job then they will be able to make others good at their similar job. I think this breaks down in most cases. I think that star that was doing something amazing just became a B person and if they get stressed or burnt out they become a C person.

Of the other C people I see around or have seen over the years, many of them are showing up for a paycheck. I have seen something amazing from Linus, somehow he is able to sense this happening and is able to motivate the C people beyond themselves. I have seen him do it by letting them try new things or grow in ways that they previously thought not possible. It is an amazing thing to witness.

Tell the right story to the right people (recognizing worldviews) – Leadership NB Prompt #4

Are you telling a story about your goal that resonates with the people who are ready to hear it?

I have thought about this a lot, but not exactly in the way presented here. Basically answering this bluntly, I am. However, it forces me to realize I am not telling it in a way that every person who is ready to hear about my goals needs to hear it.

It’s a little funny. I used to think that most people responded best to the money aspect, “here is what the business can do” etc. But I have noticed that different people respond differently and I have in a natural way (without thinking about it deeply) changed the tone of the story to fit the audience. For some people, I talk about the money, for others, it is about the potential for the business to help a large number of people, and still, for others, it has been more about their individual potential to help.

Tell your story four ways, all true, all based on different worldviews, for different audiences.

Generic Script – I know this is not what was asked for but I am not fully prepared for this. It requires a little more thought.

For the Investor type:

I have been working on “my project” for x number of (weeks|months|years) and I have seen these usage and growth patterns which allow me to project y profits.

For the Business tycoon type:

I have been working on “my project” for x number of (weeks|months|years) and I have seen these usage and growth patterns which allow me to project y growth.

For the potential worker:

I have this great thing I have been doing, “my project” and I think you would be the best fit to help it grow and reach full potential. “My project” does these things: (list of benefits provided such as social goodness). I think you would be a good fit for z.

For the potential customer:

Hey, I see you are trying to fix or take care of problem a. Something I have been working on takes care of problem a. “My project” may be a good fit for you needs, here is why I think that it is true. Will you give “my project” a chance?


These are not bullet proof solutions but I think it is a framework to start with and expand on. Of the people who hear your idea, I think the ones ready to respond will fall into one of those categories with all others just going right to the “other” been.

What does it mean to do the right thing? -Leadership NB Prompt #3

What does it mean to do the right thing even when there’s a popular shortcut?

Seth’s story about the ambulance story, about them not paying a bribe to get 911 and instead of taking 1298, really makes a clear point. We choose every day which “shortcuts” vs “right things” we are going to accept; what do we find acceptable.

I think doing the right thing often means choosing the harder path otherwise, why would we have shortcuts and that is what we are talking about here. Not doing the job as well as you should, or picking the easy way out are all kind of lazy. We see people do it all the time and it is easy for us to say to ourselves “they did it wrong” or “they made a bad choice”. But are we examining ourselves and ensuring that we are staying on the right path with all the choices we make?

Consider the journey that you and your team are on. Do the ends justify the means? Which means? What’s right and where do you draw the line? Does everyone in your culture draw the line in the same place?

For some reason, I thought of a news story I had read not too long ago where a hacker actually hacked broken systems as a way to patch them before the bad guys got access. I think he crossed the line honestly, there is more to the story that would make you agree, but sticking with what I have told you so far he has crossed the line. No one will ever know what he did (unless he tells or gets caught), but the short truth is he wants to claim to be acting on behalf of the “good guys” yet takes the same kind of shady action a bad guy would…

If we are drawing lines here; accessing people’s machines without permission, even to “fix” things is not acceptable. I have heard of other companies causing problems for their clients so that they can make more money when things go wrong. I think Hektechologies is the first time I have heard of something that is intentionally designed so that the more problems the clients have the less profit Hektech makes. As I work on My Tribal Job I have tried to bring the same level of awareness to the process. I have worked hard to make it an open and transparent process. Although I have found I failed at my goal of doing so when it comes to making sure people really understand the path we are on and the reasons for each decision.

I think this little look at culture makes that problem a little easier to understand. I have not fostered the right culture in all of my projects. At least, I have not always thought about what potentially, my actions or the things I am saying will mean to my team when it comes to culture.

What sort of control are you willing to give up to get closer to your goal?

If I knew that things were on the right course I would happily give up all control. But I think that only happens when the team I am working with understands the culture I am trying to portray and what it means long term. So have I really given up any control when these things are in place?

Writing About the thing(s) I fear to make them Less Powerful -Leadership NB Prompt #2

*This post did not go how I expected, what I had thought about writing and what came out were completely different.

What about your journey might not work?

Everything. Anything.

I wonder about, if I am making the wrong choice now, my family will suffer. My career will be set-back and I will not reach any of my goals. I will have led people down the wrong path and will have forever lost their respect. My friends and family will grow to hate me and I will die a young and pointless death because I cried “charge on” when there was no chance of success.

I think of these things often and work hard not to be wrong about things I tell people. I called out some of my biggest weaknesses and brought them into the light but they are still here. I know I am weak about telling people when things are looking bleak or when they may be harder than expected. I know that I am also weak about complaining when I should, I don’t cry out in pain when it hurts bad enough, when I am angry enough, or when the time is right. I don’t even know why.

So what may not work? If I go through this and am unable to address these fatal flaws. I know I will have failed. I know I would be a far more effective person in my personal and professional life by just getting these things right.

Does describing the chasm in front of you make it more likely that you’ll fall into it?

As I sit here contemplating this question, I realize it describes the exercise very well, and then it plays right into my fear, assuming we have come to call it that.

Let me put this another way if I have a weakness of bringing to light my own flaws, my own doubts, or my own opinion in certain situations. The question becomes why? What am I so afraid of that I would not speak up and say something is a bad idea when I know it is? Am I really afraid of hurting someone’s feelings?

This exercise is only 20 min and I am down to the last 5. It is making me think and that is why I have chosen to take this class. I realize right here though I need to sit down and evaluate some things in a similar way.

It was a weakness identified by a personality test more recently that I am seeing here. I will let a problem, something that is bothering the heck out of me, sit and festerĀ until I reach a breaking point. I need to end that. Hands down, it has to stop in my personal and professional capacities.

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